Are you comfortable in your own skin?
I must confess I’m sometimes not, yet I’ve found that the more I take care of myself, the more I embrace my physical “flaws” (can you see a bit of a belly and a few stretch marks in this pic?), the more I do things that make me happy, and the more I spend time with myself, the more comfortable I feel in my own skin.
I’d love to share these insights with YOU, so I've compiled 6 Ways To Feel More Comfortable in Your Own Skin:
1. Take Care Of Yourself:
It's so easy to let your health fall by the way side, and yet taking care of yourself is an important part of feeling comfortable in your own skin. Not sleeping, not eating right, not drinking enough water — it can all leave you feeling less than wonderful. As noted by Mary Dunlop on the lifestyle website TinyBuddha.com, "I can never say enough about how important it is to celebrate my body. Every day, I thank it for all that it does, and honor its needs through 30 to 40 minute runs, long showers, flossing my teeth, and drinking lots of water." Dunlop suggests making a list of all the things you need to do to take care of yourself so that you feel healthy and grounded, and then schedule them into your day. "It's easier to feel good about who you are when you make your needs priorities," Dunlop says.
2. Meditate To Figure Out What Ails You:
Even if you have a lot of great stuff in your life, it can still feel like something's missing. Taking time to meditate can help you figure out what that something is. I'll probably sound like Oprah for saying this (whatever, she's awesome), but often times when you feel like something is missing it's because you aren't living authentically. According to Dunlop, "I was uncomfortable because I didn't know how to be myself. This was also why I often felt unattractive and ill at ease with others. I was frequently projecting someone who didn’t feel 'like me,' and that projection habitually depended on who I was interacting with." If this sounds like something you do, consider why you do it, and then take steps to figure out who "you" really are.
3. Do Things That Make You Happy
One way to figure out who you really are is by doing things that make you happy. When you're feeling bad about yourself, it's easy to get swept along with the flow. You end up saying "yes" to things you don't really want to do, and you wind up adopting other people's hobbies just for the sake of having friends. But people who are comfortable with themselves rarely do this. They know how to say "no" and they aren't afraid to spend time doing things they enjoy. When you start focusing on what you like to do, you'll get that sense of authenticity I was talking about earlier.
4. Learn To Love Your Physical "Flaws":
Do you remember being younger and hating your freckles, or wishing desperately for smooth hair instead of your curly ringlets? But then, as you got older, you realized that your freckles are adorable, and your hair is super awesome? It's good to embrace your so-called flaws, and the more you can do it the more you'll be comfortable with yourself. It's often easier said than done, but many people start to love their appearance as they get older. Everyone has something they don't like about themselves, but that "flaw" is often what makes them interesting, unique, and lovely.
5. Embrace Your Unique Personality:
For all my fellow loud laughers out there, you've probably been told to "shush" more than once in your lives. But when people tell you to stop doing something that comes naturally — like a loud laugh, a dark sense of humor, a quirky eccentricity — you start to feel embarrassed and apologetic for who you are. Don't let other people put you down for the things that make you unique. If we all were the same, the world would be a pretty dull place. So laugh away.
6. Learn How To Be Alone With Yourself:
This step is huge, especially in this modern era of ours that never offers a moment's peace. Most of us probably can't even remember what the world was like before 24/7 entertainment and communication. Did people sit in a chair and stare at a wall? I don't even know. And that's why it's so darn difficult to be alone with yourself. Not to mention that any moment of silence allows for insecurities and worries to come creeping into our minds.
Peace and quiet can be downright hellish, but that's precisely why you have to find time to yourself. No distractions, no chatting, no streaming videos — just you, your thoughts, and (hopefully) a sense of comfort. It may take time to work up to, but you should be able to spend a night by yourself, or a weekend alone, without having an existential crisis. According to Dunlop, "In order to be comfortable with yourself, you first need to be comfortable just being."
Being comfortable with yourself, both physically and emotionally, takes practice and time to work up to yet it's inner work that really pays off.
To your vibrant health,